“Why ‘Bad’ Things Happen” By Aine Belton
By Aine Belton
Responsibility brings freedom and empowerment; the more you take responsibility for your life, the more you are able to change it.
From a metaphysical perspective, reality is manifested through what you either choose or allow at some level, consciously or otherwise. What comes under the umbrella of that allowing is not always obvious.
Unravelling why certain negative experiences occur can help you transform in the light of understanding.
Whether you know the reason why or not, however, self-love is always an anti-dote.
Below are a few possible reasons why you might create or attract ‘negative’ happenings in your life.
I do not believe you need to grow through pain in any way, however, but there may be gifts even in bad experiences.
With very traumatic and tragic experiences please go lightly with the below. None of it is intended to dilute or disregard experiences or suggest there is ever good in pain, but more shed light on a range of possible reasons from more general perspectives, of which there may be many more with depths and intricacies not covered here.
As always, please accept only that which feels right and true to you.
Why ‘Bad’ Things Happen
* They could be a product of limiting beliefs you hold about yourself, others, or life itself (which you can, of course, change).
* Perhaps you have attracted something negative because you do not know the full extent of your worth, value and deserving. Guilt, shame, and negative self-concepts can also attract negative or painful situations. Self-love will always help to heal and resolve this. Your worth is innate; you cannot add to or subtract from it, and you deserve totally and utterly simply by being alive. You are born of love, returning to love.
* Perhaps you are caught in a victim or martyr story, or have a self-pity agenda that has created or is fuelling the experience.
* Are you addicted to drama? Do you use drama to feel alive and distract yourself from issues and possible other emotions you are avoiding?
* What may seem ‘bad’ from your current perspective could be a blessing in disguise and actually be bringing you closer to a brighter future whether you realise it at the time or not.
* Repressed emotions may attract people and situations that trigger or mirror these buried states. This can ultimately help you recognize what may need healing, changing or releasing within.
* You may have simply made a bad choice. If you learn from a mistake you will gain from it. Making mistakes is part of being human. Don’t fall in to the trap of guilt and self-condemnation. Instead, recognize, acknowledge, forgive and change.
* Something ‘bad’ happening may stem from an unconscious pattern, belief or story about the way life is, or buried wounds that are being brought to light to heal and transform.
* Perhaps there’s something you’re avoiding or sabotaging through a bad thing happening, such as success, love or intimacy. It may be worth examining any beliefs and fears around these. Are you more comfortable with failure than success? Do you believe ‘life is a struggle’? Do you feel guilty about success being easy? Do you believe ‘love hurts’?, etc.
* Gifts, healing and learning can come through challenges. The situation could be one from which you learn, grow and become more of who you are. Perhaps you face a fear and move through it, transforming and releasing that fear in the process and rising to triumph with greater strength and belief in yourself. Perhaps you discover the gift of forgiveness and deeper levels of love and compassion for yourself and others. Perhaps you are spurred through pain to connect more deeply to the light within and develop more love for yourself and others. Perhaps in experiencing a ‘dark night of the soul’ you are better able to be a lantern for others, offering them hope and a way through, which is part of your soul’s purpose.
* Challenges can also serve as wake up calls when you are out of alignment with your true self, disconnected from your path or heading in the wrong direction.
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None of the above means you ever need to experience struggle, hardship or pain in your life to grow. There is no necessity or prerequisite for that, I believe.
You can learn more through joy, beauty, wonder, laughter, excitement, love and curiosity than through pain.” - Lazaris
The false nobility of struggle, sacrifice and martyrhood only take you away from happiness, love, success and shining your light, all of which are precious gifts not only to you, but to the world too.
That said, problems can hide gifts, as well as insights, healings, and positive change, and some challenges may turn out to be blessings in disguise. We rarely see the bigger picture or the know the full extent of our soul’s path from our everyday current perspectives.
The above is just a brief outline of possibilities, of which there can be many more. If any come to mind you wish to share, let us know below.
Whether you have any idea why something ‘bad’ has happened in your life or not, self-love is always a remedy!
That love will heal and transform things beautifully, and extend to bless others.
Processing your feelings, forgiving yourself and others and letting go may be stepping stones to greater love for self and others.
The more you love yourself and others, the brighter and happier your reality will become.
Love is like sunshine itself and transforms your world into sweetness and flowers.”
Awaken and own the inherent love, innocence, beauty and worth that you are.
You may need to start with accepting self, life and others just as you/it/they are. What you accept you more easily let go of and release.
If you’ve experienced something untoward in your life, forgive yourself, forgive others, let it go, and commit to love.
Intend for love. Ask for love. Make a choice for love. Give time to feel and open to love. Share your love. Receive love.
And know you always deserve 
With love,
Aine
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Thank you again, Aine, for a marvelously right-on article.
You are a blessing in my life.
Warmest regards!
Thank you!
Aine:
Thank you! I needed to read/hear this today. It’s a keeper. I’m going to journal on my situation and come up with something positive and reclaim my lost energy.
What a gift you’ve given me!
Glad it’s been helpful!
God bless you real good Aine. you have touched my life in a more special way ever since i connected to you. You are indeed a blessing and an angel. Best gift of the year
Best Regards.
mavis ossai
Thank you, blessings to you too.
I think that this is one of the hardest concepts for us to accept, especially when we are “going thru” the bad experience. When we come out of the challenge and look back, we can see it through a different viewpoint. You have given me alot to think about. Thank you so much for compiling this list and especially for providing such beautiful and loving message. Peace & love. Jean
Yes I agree it can be a challenge. thank you for your kind words, love Aine
I disagree with a lot of what you said .. its my belief that when bad things happen they are the manifestation of a karmic promise or pact we made so to speak – we come down here to earth to learn lessons, and my life’s journey has shown me that before we come down to earth we set up different experiences to manifest while on earth .. in fact, I would go so far as to say that some of us begged to come back to the family we did to experience these peaks and valley. I spent 11 years taking care of my mentally ill daughter in an attempt to prevent her suicide .. it didn’t work – she took her life – we have moved on from this now in the knowing that there are no accidents on this earth, 99.99% of our experiences are pre-ordained by us in order for us to evolve spiritually and emotionally.
Thank you Molly for your words and sharing another possible ‘reason why’. I was going to include soul-level challanges and sacred contracts. We may well choose certain experiences before coming here – we certainly choose our family and patterns therein, but these are a choice in that sense, just one that is not as conscious to us at a personality level when incarnated.
I’m sorry to hear of your painful challenge and loss and glad to hear you have moved on. I appreciate where you are coming from with your understanding of that situation.
I personally don’t believe that everything is pre-ordained in our life, though I appreciate that you say ‘pre-ordained by us’. I believe choice exists in every moment, and forgiveness, grace, and love can cancel self-imposed ‘karma’. These are just my personal beliefs.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this.
Love and blessings,
Aine
hi, I was the martyr of all martyrs when I divorced my husband. Everything was his fault, I had done nothing wrong. One day I was feeling very sorry for myself when I heard a voice within say “stop feeling sorry for yourself.” I not only heard the words I heard the message and suddenly stopped. Because of this, a problem at that time I had with my ex was ended as I could see more clearly what I could do to end that situation. I later found out i was not as innocent as I thought I was, and another time the voice told me to look at myself. I did ot want to as I did not want to be guilty. What I found, was that I did not have to feel guilty, but learned my people pleasing attitude had denied my speaking up for myself and I could have prevented some of our problems if I could have been more honest with him.
Thanks for your open honest sharing. I’ve no doubt your words will be helpful for many. Great catch and wonderful to hear!
The blessings that each one above needs today be yours.
Hi left my comment above but cannot submit it, so I repeat The blessings you need be yours today
I tend to agree with Molly Bawn’s view Aine. In my understanding/view it is so that “…our experiences are pre-ordained by us in order for us to evolve spiritually and emotionally.”, due to my own tough experiences.
And even though I do not disregard LOVE, and believe in it’s magic – Love is not a Heal All, Be All kind of medicine.
Perfectly, exactly right. <3
Thank you for puting things clearly.
HOW you think = HOW you live your life.
it’s pure mathematics.
InsightForAll
Great one, thanks for sharing
Till my 40th I have been very very angry.My father was killed in 1940 when I was 2. My mother did not like me.My stephfather was “not nice”. My husband(stephbrother) left me for another after 20 years.
Then someone thaught me about karma and reencarnation. I began to understand things. The hatred was gone and I could let go. Since then I was able to really live. I began to write poems, childrensongs, fairy tales, to paint, to teach children. Since than I could LIVE and I still do.I could change my karma for the best and I unnderstand why things happened as they did.
I am 75 now and I feel great.
Thank you for sharing your story and life transformation, it is wonderful to hear and very inspiring.
Love, Aine
I did not decide to be born, birth happened. I will not decide to die, death happens. The doctor said I am born when I took my first breath. The doctor will say I am dead when I stop breath. Thus, life is breath which also happens. A blind cannot say I cannot believe there is no bulb since he cannot see it! Those blind to realities do not believe that which is. I did not decide to be a male nor do be born in India. I did not choose my parents nor my people around me. Yes, the only freedom between birth and death is how I choose to live however, the seeds that I sow today have to bear fruits for my tomorrow which I only have to eat. Molly Bawn, great insight – you are a highly evolved soul!
I believe so called bad things happen but as soon as we truly realize that we can change them with thoughts of love, we truly realize how magical we are.
I’ve recently experienced many things happening and I could choose fear but instead I acknowledge the fear, let myself feel it, then know that I’ve come here to earth not just for the good but also for the bad. Then I let go of the bad experience and magically the problem disappears or doesn’t seem like a problem at all. The answer seems so natural and happiness comes from knowing that
power.
Thanks Aine,I love aware Spiritual Beings like you.
I have found to open up the mind and the gate to Finding out who you really are is to remove the pain from the Mind. It is like removing a Virus from a computer. Pain is the source of insanity, Bad memory, insecurities, fears, aberations, Psychosomatic Illnesses, Depression, Amnesia and Lack of Responsibilities. It is also why we react. Pain keeps one from reaching, that is the basis of responsibility. The amount of pain stored in his past determines your current life.
We are Spiritual Beings with Amnesia and have forgotten our selves as Spirits, because of Painful incidents, sins and drugs, all which tie our attention up to our past. You are where your attention is. Spirits have unlimited potential and abilities and can just know if one is in the moment.
If your thinking, your operating as Man and are not in the moment. When your in the moment you will operate as a Spirit. You will see truth and understand and that is the anatomy of lOVE…
Beautiful article and so true. We need many more such validations to come out of the limiting belief systems (of pain, suffering & sacrifice being essential for being good), that actually constrict our evolution. My heartfelt gratitude .
i needed such a thing now. i feel better
thank you 
thanks a ton 
Could you explain to me how the loss of one’s SON be a blessing of any kind. Please don’t bring “I AM A CRULE AND VENGFULL GOD” I was always a spiritual human till then . I always said “If one has nothing left to have FAITH IN. One must always maintain FAITH IN FAITH it’s self’ ‘This is my own quote’crp.At the time of his passing I was texting him,He didn,t have the phone on him I knew something wasn,t right. The phone rang ,his name came up ,I answered no one on the other line. Short time later His name came up
But this time it was my cousin calling to say he was coming over .I found out from my cousin that my son had been killed in a freak motercycle accident. Icould admit to myself I already new. I have only one son left now . So not to be rude however what blessing love comes from the death of a younge man that a whole town came paid thier respects and his wake ‘Thats CA’ RIDDLE ME THAT Renee
Hi Renee,
I’m sorry to hear of your tragic painful loss. I cannot imagine anything more painful.
I do not believe in a cruel and vengeful God in any way whatsoever. I believe God is Love.
I, of course, cannot explain why you lost your son. If you read above I do not say all bad things that happen are a blessing. I say some challenges can be.
We all chose to leave our life at different times and ages. We may look at early unexpected deaths as an accident, or as something the soul has chosen at a higher level. I do not believe death is a problem for those that die as I believe we continue, but it is painful for those left behind.
What helps me with that is believing their consciousness continues, their spirit still lives, and only the body dies. That does not lessen the loss of their physical absence however and trememdous grief that may come with that, but the awareness helps me personally in some way.
I look at 10 possible reasons why bad things happen in our life, and point out there can be many more. None of what I write is intended to make light of tragic, painful and traumatic circumstances, or suggest there is good in pain.
Love, light and healing wishes,
Aine
Aine, thank you for such a wonderful message.
Tatania, if we truly open our heart and go deep feeling our Self up, we would experience magically what LOVE IS… as Aine beautifully put in place
“Love is like sunshine itself and transforms your world into sweetness and flowers.”
Imagine the Sun emitting rays of light, unconditionally to all Beings needing those light without asking anything in return… that is what it means by Unconditional Love… A Spiritual Love of highest vibrational energy level
To achieve Spiritual Love is to have Balance, Harmony in our life. Harmony attracts, so is Love. Therefore, attain calmness of still mind to experience inner peace. With inner peace, one would emit harmonious vibrational energy to the space surrounding, thus giving out unconditional love, serving to others.
Magical sweetness and beauty to our life will surface naturally amid unexpectably beyond understanding of “un-awakened” mind.
An innocent kid meets with death due to a sudden sickness or a natural calamity or an accident.Maybe it is another experience preordained by the soul as self-punishment for a sin, committed in the previous life. For the soul of the kid, this is part of the refinement of his spirituality. For others, the blessing can be the lessons learned. Life has to pass through such horrible events. But the freewill can be exercised to guide the less-grownups of such risks.
No one can ever well why bad things happen. We can only try to leave a happy life after they happen. What will say about a father who heard about his only son’s bike accident gave up his ghost and his son also died 2days after. Only God knows why bad thing happens. Our duty i think is to try to find a reason to live after they happen.this is where the power of LOVE and CHOICE comes to play
dear Aine,
i’ve loved this article. as always you are clear and secure with all the subjects you write, and lead us to deeper understanding . that the brightness of your light can reach all of us. thanks for sharing.
elmiro
Hi Aine!
I find this article very thoughtful and intelligent.Thank you very much for it.
Thanks Aine
needed this today
peace and love
Hi Aine, As usual you are so right about this delicate subject that is often taboo. Love your insights. Fresh views. Always enjoy reading what you have to say. To me you are a special gal, that i keep in my agenda.
:)Thanks for sharing and being who you are. Have a great week-end. Hope that whatever you are doing all is well. Our World needs people like you. Continue to give Love like you do. Peace ,light ,Love. Aine i love you! 
Sounds kinda like ” Pie in the Sky “2 me . Like lookin’ @ the world thru rose colored glasses . Lets’ face it , life is sometimes hard ,thats’ life . It isn’t always ” Sunshine & flowers ! Just think how boring that would get anyway ! I , personally, enjoy a thunder-storm , hurricane , and yes even an occasional earth-quake R’ 2 every now N’ again ,ya’ know , jus ‘ 2 shake things up a bit ,else wize life gits’ kinda ‘boring ,like I said . Well anyhow ,Thanks ! C Ya !
Hi Aine,
Perfectly. Thank you, blessings to you too.
Dear Aine,
Thank you, thank you.God bless you.
You are a beautiful soul, Aine.
I am so amazed and excited by your words they feel right to me most of the time.
Self-love is needed in abundance indeed, as a lot of the journey is deep and varied.
Thanks & blessings to you.
Dear Aine,
You are a living angel. Thanks for giving hope and future to humanity. We are om the Same level. Sometimes I wonder if there are people how are juist like me, you give me hope for the future, thank you.
Best Regards,
ludo
Hi Aine,
Enjoyed your article it really helped me start the day, was feeling kinda rough with a sinus cold.
I believe in the possibility of all things. What works (or doesn’t) for some people may not work for others. It’s all about the journey and being mindful.
Jackson Dunes
Understanding life through walking meditation “At The Beach”
Thank you dear.It helped me a lot.
What a choice of words…..
A word about unconditional Love….Unconditional Love is UNCONDITIONAL. Meaning no expectations, no judgements. You CAN love unconditionally. It does NOT mean you condone bad behavior or do not set boundaries. It does not mean you must get walked over or suffer. You can love a person and not condone their behavior. People often act out of fear. Fear of acceptance, fear of authority, fear of failure. Examine yourself and learn. If you had not feared, would you have acted in a certain way? Do you fear to be unloved? Learn. We all make mistakes and we can all learn. Peace comes with the lesson.
Bad things happen, yes, sometimes we have no control over them or why. You cannot live another’s life, only your own. You can only control yourself. Sometimes that takes a lifetime and that’s ok. Try loving yourself first. I have no doubt Aine’s course goes into love, forgiveness and gaining peace.
No one says there is no pain and suffering but there are ways to transform and learn from it that leave you a better person, not embittered and stuck in it. Many people do it every day and so can you. Don’t be crippled by fear. Fear is the opposite of Love. You ARE loved unconditionally. You need only feel it, learn it and pass it on to transform your life and that of those around you. For some, this may not be easy at first but be open…learn…the possibilities are endless…and the rewards as well.
Thank you, as always you are right about a lot of things in life. Love is the key to redeem yourself when you feel you did something you were not suppose to do. Very often you think you do right thing, but you are wrong. It takes time and so much suffer to realize that. Love and forgiveness always help in this situations. It is hard to forgive some things, but you try to find enough power inside to do that, but it can lead to a fabulous life at the end.
Thank you again, Daniela
EVERY PERSON HAS HIS OWN EXPERIENCES IN HIS LIFE…GOOD,BAD,UGLY,HAPPY OR TRAGIC!BUT LIFE MOVES ON.PLEASE DO NOT BE TRAPPED IN THE PAST. LOOK TOWARDS THE FUTURE WITH LOVE,FORGIVENESS,PRAYERS,POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS! WE AS HUMAN BEINGS CANNOT SOLVE THE MYSTRIES OF GOD!
THANKS AINE FOR THOUGHT PROVOKING ARTICLE.
I AM IN THIS FORUM ONCE AGAIN
MY GRANDSON,MUJTABA,6 MONTHS OLD,DIED SUDDENLY DURING SLEEP IN HIS BED AT HOME.
NEXT TIME,MY DAUGHTER WAS AGAIN BLESSED WITH A SON,NAMED HAMZA,LIVING HALE AND HEARTY UPTILL NOW.
WHY MUJTABA WAS TAKEN AWAY AND HAMZA GIVEN IN HIS PLACE? THIS IS MYSTERY OF GOD!
MAY GOD BLESS ALL OF US AND GIVE US COURAGE TO FACE THE TRAGEDIES OF LIFE GRACEFULLY!
Thank you. I shared this with my husband as reinforcement of the obstacles he is going through right now. He is spiritual like I am, meaning we follow the path of pagansim so to speak. I bought a book a few years ago and I ended up reading it from beginning to end. The title of it is called Things happen for a Reason. It was a healthy balm to the many things I was going through. I agree with everything in your blog including comments about reincarnation. Those points that you made can very well be a possible blend of reincarnation or something entirely different. Every one has their own thoughts, beliefs, etc. It took me years to “remember” the spiritual knowledge that is yet to manifest cause we are not quite ready to understand. I hope this makes sense. I’m sure others know what I’m saying. Again thank you, we could use whatever encouragement is out there to keep us going.
Thank You for your wonderful contribution through great meaningful articles.
This article in particular is very very inspiring & helpful.
I do share your articles with which I resonate fully some times in full & some times in parts with friends on social media. Hope I have permission to do that!
May you continue your wonderful contribution to the mankind.
Love & Blessings
Ravikiran
Thanks for the lovely inspiration article. If only world leaders are aware of love the world would be a much much better place for mankind.
i was in 1979 in peki south dain collonise by german ,when german lose second world war her collony was took away and share between fancofon and anglofon speaking country ,from my childhood up to day i train my self .i feed my family at young age so i was called the farther of the family.from my child hood to today no one look me with goodeyes people always blame me even if i do good to them what they normaly say is ,,,,na your your fort why do you give him or her .i love every body but people always run from me even in church and yet they give me advice ,.i grow strongly to face the challenges ahead of me since i have no girl friend i always masterobate even no mater how much i spend on her is foolish to them ,i wrote a letter to german presedent in i995 that time is called penpal he said when i grow up he will help me after my class mate thieve the letter from me since then i lost his contact ,some times some powers will surround me but i control them but still they do thire work on thiere own up today my parent dont know what i see i hide it from everybody till now ,.my live is more than heal to me no one ever give me somsthing instead i give but they say blessed is the hand tha give than to recieved ,anywhere you found yourself thank good .but i promis my self one thing i can change my life wheather good or bad.what i know is when the time come it will be a history of my life .
I really enjoyed the article and points of views shared by others. Helped me in my own situation with my self created pain and the determination to move beyond it.
It is so refreshing to read thought provoking conversations related to everyone accepting of different views and no unkind remarks. Looking forward to reading more in the future.
In the meanwhile I have lots of inner work to do on the present subject. Love and Light to All
Thankyou Aine.
I have known for a long time that i’ve stuck inescapably under a black cloud. I’m 56 years old and i’ve spent the last 31 of those years trying hard to alter my mindset.So far whatever i’ve tried has brought zero results. Now that i have read your article i will redouble my efforts armed with a greater understanding. As ever you have hit the nail on the head and called it like it is. Thankyou once again Aine.
Maldwyn.
I forced myself out of bed 3:48am this morning rather than lay there spinning endlessly. All the best intentions still find me slowly drifting backwards. With a degree in metaphysics I’m no stranger to the workings of the Universe. Perhaps I am stranger unto myself?. With my online seeking this morning to counter a spiral downwards I opened your email from the other day. “What a good sign”, I told myself. I appreciate your efforts Aine, all that has brought you to this moment. And I’m looking forward to loving myself more! ~dlb
What is love? Can we love without feeling responsability? Can we be responsable without feeling love?Love without responsibility or the other way around is neither one.I hope I explain myself correctly.The day I understood the reencarnatio, I understood that I had to be responsable for my own life en to learn to love myself.I could forgive all the people who “did me wrong” and even though I could not say I loved them,I did not hate them any more.
Till her last moment my mother told everyone that I was a nurse coming over from far to help her, that I was not her daughter.I did not feel anything, it was alright with me. I felt that my karma with her was over I told her so. I was free to go on ithout that piece of karma on my shoulder.
The same when my husband died.His other wife was not in his life anymore, so I went to the hospital and stayed with him for two days and onenight. He died peacefuly in my arms. I was at peace too.
I learned to learn from everything happening in my life. Nice and less nice.
LOVE <3
THANK YOU
Hi,
First let me thank you for writing this and many other articles. I am allways very happy to receive your newsletter.
I am in point where I was a few years ago, in a point when I have to make a choice for love. Back then I have listen my mother, others and my logical thinking but during the next years my heart wasn’t that happy. Now I have to choose between a man that I loved back in time but left me (that was a hard time for me) and a man that I met 1 year ago but wich is there for me when I need and he does anything to please me. Again my heart wants something (the new guy) and logical part something else (the old guy in the ideea that back then it was so good with him and he said he loved me so much and that he still does, he divorced his wife for me) but now I want to choose the heart way. I hope it’s the good decision this time and this article is a sign. Wish you all the best and good things and all the love in the world.
I just recieved you’re email today at a time in my life filled with important decisions. You must be my Law Of Attraction reflection. I need to be making very important decisions about things that affect the world….everyone will be affected by this. Energy and Mind are the two basic needs in life, Im looking at everything but should only be looking at what I truly want and forget
the rest. Thanks, you rock again. Love youand p
Thank you very much for sharing your experiences. In my personal opinion whatever happens to us is due to our own choices.But I also believe that many happenings in our lives are pre-ordained and I have ample evidence to that effect.Is it not said that “not a blade of grass will grow without His will” On the other hand,many of the sins we commit can be burnt if we stop doing bad things and dedicate whatever we do to God. Ultimately love is the most powerful weapon because God Himself is the embodiment of love
Thanks, Angel of Love. You are a divine blessing to me and to the world. May God greatly bless you and your calling.
THANKS FOR SHARING IVE BEEN STAGNAT FOR SO LONG AND SELF LOATHING IM ADDICTED TO DRAMA AND I DONT SEE THE BLESSINGS IN THINGS THANKS FOR WAKING ME UP WITH LOVE
Reminds me of:
“I deserved Everything I ever got from God….But Thank God, I didn’t get Everything I ever Deserved”! Even the most Horrible Person that ever was or ever will be, is a Precious Child of God.
Aine,
Thank you very much for sharing another encouraging article, I’m really in nee of encouragement. I have read almost all of the responses and I feel deeply sorry for the losses families have. I wish all of you a lot of strength and sending you positive energy and love. Comparing to some of you my problems might be too small. I’m struggeling with myself from my verg childhood. I was born and grown in war, went through a lit of hard life experiences. This all made me feel I don’t deserve to be loved, I felt guilty for all life happenings and this lead to anorexia followed by bulimia. After a long time recovery and family support I am “healthy” now. I fell in love with 23 years older man who used to be all my world, my everything. I lost myself in him, I gave him so much love, care that there was no energy left or myself. Due to my faults he started taking me for granted which hurt a lot. I imagined him as my life partner, first and last man in my life. However after a long 3 years of cultural and partnership struggle, misunderatandigs we have split up. It is Much painful, it has been a year that we have split up, however it’s still a fight for me to find again myself, to accept and love myself, to accept that I deserve to be happy, respected by man and loved.
I’m working on it and u hope all of will gain peace at some point. I’d love to be able to love myself as much as I’m able to love people around me. I can feel I started respecting and loving myself much more than before, I’m much more self-confident, I speak up when I need to share my opinion and I dislike disrespect when I feel someone does it to me.
Thank you!
Excellent insight! Amazing how I forget the little things that mean so much.
Its amazing to see some of those things that have baffled me over the years in your beautiful and wholesome analysis. Thank you so much as usual! I am now empowered to deal with those negative feelings.
It seems to me that all my negative behavior patterns and negative self-perceptions based on subconscious patterns of childhood because of shame by their parents who were not happy with how I look, how to behave and so on. At the subconscious patterns can affect even though I was aware of their destructive actions. What to do?
Love is God and when we love unconditionally we are manifesting our highest selves. To be enlightened is to love the universe as A part of yourself and all things as one. How wonderful is it that all we need beyond basic necessities is love and within that is all of the universe? love cannot be bought or sold. We are born out of divine love, even if the way in which we were conceived was unloving, and to love we return. Holding this in my thoughts each moment, makes the journey of my Earthly existence amazing, and I believe even though life can serve up some unpleasant things, that love is the healing power for all insults of the body and soul.
Thank you as always, I feel your compassion through your words. You are gifted and a gift.