By Aine Belton
As I shared in my piece on resistance a while back (at this link), our ego and hidden parts of us may resist the positive and living a life we truly love.
This can include doing the ‘spiritual practices’ that align us to our true self, and open us to more of the love that we are and that is ever there for us, and the happiness, flow and success our heart desires.
Creating a daily spiritual practice can help. I call this BLISSIPLINE as the rewards are blissful indeed. I’m not always great at sticking to set times so this is a reminder for me also.
It doesn’t need to be complicated or majorly time-consuming. Keep it simple and true to you, and something that feels easy and appealing, else you may view it as a chore and be more likely to resist it.
Check out the ‘12 Bliss Tips’ below towards this.
Of course, anything that helps you let go of more of what you’re not (constricting thoughts, feelings, limiting beliefs and stories), and connects you to greater love – the unconditional love of the universe, and the love, joy and beautiful nature that you are – aids your spiritual path.
Any spiritual path and journey of unveiling more of who you are inevitably involves a level of intimacy with self. You may resist this intimacy (with busyness, drama and distractions, for example) if there are painful or uncomfortable feelings that you wish to avoid which would surface through that self-intimacy.
This is understandable, and you may not even be conscious that you are doing so, nor of the repressed states you are avoiding. Personally it is only when I get in touch with and create the space to feel my emotions that I get fully present to what is going on within.
In escaping yourself you also escape the way through – the way out of a limiting self-created illusion into the sunny truth of love – the love that is there for you in every moment and the healing love in your heart for yourself, others and the world.
It is being separate from this love that creates a sense of separation in other areas of our life.
Change begins with awareness and being conscious with compassionate acknowledgement and acceptance which involves facing the mirror.
Do not run from your fears, stand and wipe the mirror instead.”
All that appears painful can be seen as an illusory fog clouding the true loving nature of yourself and reality; stories, beliefs and hidden agendas that are being projected onto the screen of your life.
Your outer reality is not the separate random occurrence it may appear to be. You and your reality are inextricably linked. There can be a multitude of reasons why things manifest. Nonetheless, you are ultimately Source not Subject of your reality and your experience is a result of what you either create or allow on some level, consciously or otherwise (I share about “Why Bad Things Happen” in a previous article at this link).
12 ‘Blissipline’ Tips!
1. Daily Meditation
When you change your energy you change your reality. Meditation is a powerful energy raiser and purifier and helps you connect to your Higher Self and the loving intelligence at the heart of Life. The benefits of meditation on physical, mental, emotional and spiritual levels are well documented.
Meditation stills the ‘monkey mind’ and looping conscious thoughts and feelings that can disrupt your state of being and distract you from your true self.
When you meditate constricting energy can be naturally released as you relax into deeper states of mind, raise your consciousness, and create a gateway to connect to your Higher Self and Source. Meditation can offer a gentle safe space for your heart to open, clearer perspectives and divine guidance to be received, and the ‘bigger picture’ of your being and life beyond everyday living and your personality programs to be unveiled.
There are a wide variety of meditation practices and various traditions and approaches, including guided meditations, breathing techniques, mindfulness, visualizations, mantras, etc. Even moments in quiet stillness and reflection can be very valuable.
Just 5 minutes meditating once a day can be beneficial. Commit to a time in the mornings, for example. You can extend that to 2 or more times a day, and move from 5 minutes to 10, then 20 minutes.
2. Intention-Setting and Manifesting Routine
You are a powerful co-creator, creating your reality in every moment. Desire, imagine, dream, believe, and open to receive.”
As an extension of your meditation time you can send out positive intentions, visualisations, dreams, and blessings into the universe through thought and imagination.
You may also like to optimize your day ahead with positive intentions, such as:
“May all that is in the highest of all unfold with grace and ease today, opening me and others to greater love, joy and success.” or whatever words resonate with you.
Whilst I have not studied A Course In Miracles personally I have enjoyed any of the material I have read or come across, including this wonderful morning intention-setting prayer:
“What would you have me do today? Where would you have me go? What would you have me say, and to whom?” ~ A Course In Miracles
Take a moment then to pause and reflect, opening to what flows, and any inspiration, guidance, or positive states that may arise after.
When you go to sleep, say thank you. When you awaken, say thank you.”
Gratitude raises your energy, opens you to more love and abundance, transforms problems, and accelerates the manifestations of your heart’s desires.
Allow yourself to feel grateful for 5-10 things in your life each morning and before bed. It is a simple exercise and doesn’t take long. What matters is really getting in touch with and feeling that gratitude and appreciation so it is not just a routine process, but one that generates the energy of gratitude which will naturally attract more of that which you feel grateful for and all that brings you love and joy.
Gratitude is a light that dances from your heart, and blesses you and its subject whether near or far apart.”
4. Time in Nature
Let yourself be hugged by the love of the land, be cradled by its flower laden hand.”
Spending time in nature is rejuvenating and recalibrating, restores harmony, peace, and joy, imbues you with love and opens you to the sacred.
Nature embodies the divine, manifest in beauty-forms emanating with pure life force. The wondrous energies of flowers, plants and the nourishing energy and love of mother earth herself are very transforming and rejuvenating.
Being in nature will also ground you, relieve stress and discharge negative energies from your field, as well as lift your spirits and open your heart. Feed your soul with time nature.
5. Do More of What you Love
What makes your heart sing? Go do it!”
This is an obvious one, but I personally find reminding myself always helps.
Are you really giving yourself permission to do what you love? How much more of what brings you joy can you add to your life?
Your happiness in itself is one of the greatest gifts you can give the world, and the people who love you in it. All work and no play makes for a dull day. Write a ‘joy-list’ of all that brings you joy and schedule it in to your days. Remember to ask your heart what it wants and grant those requests regularly.
6. Open to Receive
You deserve all your heart desires. Open to receive.”
I share a free ebook “The Magic of Receiving” as one of the gifts at this site at www.globalloveproject.com/gifts which covers a lot on this topic.
Here I want to point out that being overly independent, a martyr, in sacrifice, taking on too much or trying to do everything on your own only leads to burn out and exhaustion, and usually accompanying resentment.
Life doesn’t have to be a struggle. How can you receive more, have things be easy, and be supported? How can things be more elegant and graceful? How and where/what area of your life could you benefit from receiving more?
Know you deserve and intend and open to receive. Ask for what you desire in your heart and feel worthy of receiving it. Send requests out to the universe. Ask the loving intelligence of All to help you in manifesting your heart’s desires. Affirm your intentions and be open to receive the outer manifestations in your reality – the blessings which may also show up as synchronicities, signs, and opportunities that come your way.
Take a moment to accept yourself, life and others just as you/it/they are.”
The more you accept yourself as you are, the more you let go of what you’re not. It is what you resist about yourself that persists, and gets repressed into your shadow showing up in your world through projections that you make of that which is denied within.
Be conscious of whether you’re in guilt and choose to drop it. Guilt has no redeeming features. Let go of self-judgment and any self-punishment you may create or allow through your reality being painful or unkind.
Forgive yourself. Be loving, compassionate and accepting of yourself just as you are. Let yourself off the hook once and for all.
It may be easy to love the beautiful in you but it is the ugly parts that need your love the most. It is these parts that are most separate from love. Same goes with others. Accept all of you, light and dark, strengths and weaknesses, and embrace the true higher being of love, light, innocence and WONDER that you are.
8. Take Responsibility
Responsibility brings freedom and empowerment; the more you take responsibility for your life, the more you are able to change it.”
Become aware of the thoughts, feelings, beliefs and attitudes that are creating your reality. These may not always be conscious and there may be unconscious patterns and beliefs at play. Take your power back through responsibility. Accept things as they are and understanding them or not, take responsibility for them nonetheless, and let go of what doesn’t serve you.
If you don’t like the story you’re living, get writing a new script! Your reality is not a random occurrence separate it may appear to be.
Take responsibility for your life wherever you are, forgive yourself for creating or allowing anything painful (though there may be hidden gifts and blessings even in those circumstances) and commit to a life of greater love, joy and success.
9. Honour Your Emotions
When it comes to emotions don’t skirt in the shallows; dive in deep, get wet, let their currents be fully felt.”
When we shut down to negative emotions to avoid pain, we also shut out the lighter, positive feelings of love, happiness and joy too.
One of the best ways to honour and release your emotions is to FEEL them! This doesn’t mean indulging in them or giving them undue attention if they do not serve you (i.e. nip that self-pity in the bud), but it can mean diving into them to let them be fully felt. Doing so can be the quickest and most natural way for them to move through you and be released.
This frees you and allows you to experience the gifts, healing, illuminations and light feelings lie on the other side of your denser constricting emotions.
Your feelings are allies and point to what needs healing, clearing or aligning within. They show you what’s going on inside, and the thoughts and beliefs that are currently shaping your world, which you can of course change if they don’t serve you.
Give yourself permission to feel, feelings are what make you real.”
10. Be Yourself
Be yourself; you’re the only one qualified, plus you’re amazing!”
You’re here to be YOU. When you go trying to be someone else you deprive the world of who you are.
You have so many gifts just in being that authentic self. When you warp or shrink yourself out of fear, self-consciousness or conformity, you deprive people of the magic that you are. What good are the gifts of your being if unwrapped and hidden?
Never let shyness stop you from sharing what your beautiful heart wants to share!
Being yourself is the key true success and the best way to serve others and your world. Don’t hide yourself or your gifts. Be courageous and vulnerable enough to share yourself authentically.
Your presence alone is a gift. Never forget or underestimate that presence. The light of your being, the ambience of your soul, brings warmth, substance, colour and meaning into others’ lives, more than you may know or realise. They have attracted you into their life for that reason and vice versa.
Be like the sun; shine your love on everyone.”
Love yourself and others. This obviously isn’t an intellectual process and one of opening the heart, but choice and intention can help.
There can be a lot of resistance to love, conscious or otherwise, and times when loving self or others may feel easier than others, but make it an overriding aim. Love lies at the heart of all that you seek, and separation from it at the root of your troubles and pain.
Let love be a guiding light in your life to steer your ship through stormy waters back to the shore of truth, happiness and joy. Love is what your life is about more than you may know or realise.
We all love to love and be loved. It doesn’t get better than that. The more you love yourself and others, the happier and brighter your life will become.
You are loved totally and unconditionally by the heart of creation. There is nothing you need do to win that love and nothing you can do to lose it.
Becoming aware of this helps to connect you to your inherent unconditional worth, increases your sense of deserving, heals pain of separation and opens you to the love that is there for you in every moment.
12. Oneness Perspectives
An awareness that at a fundamental level we are all connected, and from a meta-physical perspective you and your reality are not separate, helps to foster greater compassion, forgiveness, responsibility, and love.
In Lak’ech (I am you/you are me).You are my other me. If I do harm to you, I do harm to myself.If I love and respect you, I love and respect myself. ~ Mayan saying
Love and blissings,
Any thoughts or comments on any of the above daily positive practices, exercises or bliss tips you wish to share yourself?
Global Love Day was created as an annual event to celebrate our humanity and unity through unconditional love, pioneered by Harold Becker of The Love Foundation (www.lovefoundation.com), on May 1, 2004 to “Inspire people to love unconditionally”.
We are encouraging people to honour and celebrate this day with love. Below are some resources:
- “10 Tips for Global Love Day”: www.globalloveproject.com/10-tips-global-love-day
- Free “Love-In Guide”: www.globalloveins.com/love-in-guide
- Free “3-Step Online Love-In”: www.invivoplay.com/site/challenge_preview?c=1922
- Free Love Pack (4 life-transforming ebooks): www.globalloveproject.com/gifts
- Global Love Day celebrations happening around the world: www.globalloveproject.com/global-love-day-celebrations
Wishing you a blessed and beautiful love and joy-filled day!
Global Love Day was created as an annual event to celebrate our humanity and unity through unconditional love, pioneered by Harold Becker of The Love Foundation, on May 1, 2004 to “Inspire people to love unconditionally”.
Something I share on twitter >> Never miss an opportunity to say “I love you”, better still, create them!Global Love Day, May 1st, is one such opportunity – for ‘being the love’ you want to see in the world. Of course, it’s the depth and realness of that love that counts. It’s not what you say, it’s what you feel, it’s not what you do, it’s why you do it. At the link below I share “10 Tips for Global Love Day” (relevant also for ANY DAY) which includes ways to open to, share, and celebrate love, whether alone or in a group. Go to: www.globalloveproject.com/10-tips-global-love-day
Other free resources for Global Love Day (May 1st) include >> Free “Love-In Guide”: www.globalloveins.com/love-in-guide Free “3-Step Online Love-In”: www.invivoplay.com/site/challenge_preview?c=1922 Free Love Pack (4 life-transforming ebooks): www.globalloveproject.com/gifts
Find out about some of the inspiring Global Love Day celebrations happening around the world: www.globalloveproject.com/global-love-day-celebrations
Love and blessings,
[The below post was shared in the Global Love ezine, which you can receive, along with 4 free ebooks, at: www.globalloveproject.com/gifts]
It’s been wonderful hearing about all the activities happening on and around Global Love Day, May 1st, to honour and celebrate humanitarian love.I share some of these just below as they are very inspiring.
More details are also available via the events page of the Global Love-Ins site: www.GlobalLoveIns.com/events
You can add your own details if you’re planning something dedicated to love at: www.GlobalLoveIns.com/add-event
Some of the less usual public gatherings include a “Yoga Love-In” in New York run by the wonderful Yogirls Program charity (www.yogirlsprogram.org) that supports at risk teens who are also launching a wonderful book project to give back and empower, details at this page.
There is a “Big Global Love-In” celebration led by Heaven on Earth entertainment in London with profits going to Opportunity International, an organisation that empowers people in poverty, a “Choose Love” Love-In in L.A. with Love You Revolution charity, and a large outdoor “Unity Gathering” in Somerset, England – a heart-centred event with many facets.
In Kenya a “Love-Share-Laugh” Love-In is happening at the Mosoriot Teachers College, and in Ontario, Canada, a “Heal your Life” Love-In. In Mauritius there is a group playing the personal empowerment “Transformation Game”, and getting together to share love and have fun.
An inspiring “Love-Minding” event is happening in L.A. (a group mastermind to explore ways to bring love into the world, into business and in being of service), a “Gratitude Love-In” in the UK as a way to get together and give thanks, and “World Peace” Love-In meditating for world peace.There is also an inspiring “Love Over Fear” day with Mayoral Proclamation ceremony in Washington, USA, at the Human Rights Educational Institute, among other inspiring initiatives, and another one in Idaho. In Mauritius a group are playing the personal empowerment “Transformation Game” and getting together to share love and have fun and in Brighton there is a “Love Tea Bar” event in the heart of Brighton, UK, offering natural healthy herb ‘love teas’ made by herbalist Laetitia. Global Love Day was created as an annual event to celebrate our humanity and unity through unconditional love by Harold Becker of the Love Foundation back in 2004 to “inspire people to love unconditionally.
How will you celebrate Global Love Day?
You can let us know by adding any details at: www.globalloveins.com/add-eventBelow are 3 Simple Steps for any love-focussed activity: 1. Set the date/time you intend to do something dedicated to love, or a get-together if you wish to have one. 2. Decide on what the activity/focus will be. Here are some examples:
A dinner, a meditation, heart-opening exercises (as those offered in the Love-In Guide), writing letters of love and gratitude, buying someone a card or gift, watching an inspiring love-oriented movie, being lovingly creative with music, art or poetry, a yoga practise dedicated to love, sharing gifts or acts of love, writing a letter of love to a friend/loved one, or for a stranger to find in a public place, a get together with friends or family to love, laugh, celebrate and connect in love, etc.
3. Add your activity or event details at the website here to let us know: www.globalloveins.com/add-eventWhat’s most important is the loving intention beyond any form it takes to honour, celebrate, and create the space for love this Global Love Day (and, of course, ANY day). How can you open to, allow in, share, and ‘be the love’ you want to see in the world? Love and blessings, Aine Belton
By Aine Belton
Choice can open the door to a whole new life, not only at cross-roads on your path, but in each moment, giving you access to the bountiful palate with which to paint your world.
You can choose a new action, thought or feeling at any time, and birth an entirely new reality as a result.
Every choice has an impact, to a greater or lesser extent, each one like a pebble dropped in a pond; the ripples, the ramifications, spreading out into your future and other areas of your life.
Even one small choice made today that shifts your life by a minor degree can take you to an entirely different future than the one you are heading, opening doors to a myriad of new horizons, opportunities, situations, potentials and states of being.
I’ve no doubt you can remember choices you made weeks, months or years ago that have significantly changed who and where you are right now. Perhaps you can also think of choices you didn’t make and wonder where your life may have ended up, for better or worse, if you had.
The good news with choice is, you can make a new one in any moment!
Each moment is ripe with a cornucopia of possibility.”
Owning choice – its availability, your capacity to make it, and its capacity to change your life – brings freedom and empowerment.
Further below are some questions to assist in making optimum choices.
First I want to share 3 allies that will enhance decision-making of any kind.
Choice sourced in love can only ever win.
It is the intention that matters so much when it comes to making choices. Be willing to be wrong in pursuit of what is right. You may mess up, you may make a ‘mistake’, but if your heart is in the right place, not only will making a mistake be far less likely, the outcome of that choice may still be positive if the energy behind it is.
Love opens you to optimum choices. Are you in a loving state when making decisions? When you are feeling loving towards yourself and others you open to brighter choices for the greater good of all.
Love helps you get clearer about how true a choice is, i.e. how aligned it is to your heart, and separates the chaff from the wheat, protecting you from ego agendas.
The state you are in, the thoughts and feelings you are experiencing, all have a big impact on the choices you make. Love is a pure high state of being that is of truth and accordance with divine will.
Love beckons always the most beautiful becoming”
2. Imagination Another key ally for choice is imagination.
When looking at choices to make in your life, be sure to use your imagination and explore the expanse of possibilities available. Open to options and potentials, even those you may think are unlikely possibilities from your current perspectives or situation. Broaden your vision so you have a wide range of choices available to you. Doing so helps you make more optimum empowered ones.
Before making a choice, open to the possible, and engage your imagination as a means to do that.
3. There are no perfect choices
There was a time in my life when I was very bad at making choices. The main culprits were fear, a lack of personal power and perfectionism.
Perfectionism breeds fear and can be paralysing. I was cautious with choices, afraid I might be making the ‘wrong choice’. I had gotten the idea that there was a perfect choice in each moment, which of course there isn’t.
You are human and you will make mistakes.
Experience is simply the name we give our mistakes.” ~ Oscar Wilde
As said, it is the intention behind any choice that matters. It’s better to be wrong for the right reasons, than right for the wrong reasons. Is your decision coming from ego, or love?
You are creating your reality in every moment. Even if you do make a ‘duff’ choice, you can make a new one after. You may want to forgive yourself, let it go, digest any learnings, etc. Opening to love before making a decision safe-guards you from choices that may be painful or damaging to yourself or others.
Some of the biggest mistakes I’ve made in my life were the choices I didn’t make, which were also choices. Saying “yes” to life, being bold enough to act on my intuition and to choose the life my heart desired changed so much.
Be discerning, but don’t be shy with choice. Yield it, with love, responsibility, care and conscious intention.
What choice could you make today that would change your life for the better this week/month/year?
Below are some questions to help elicit optimum choices, whether you are at a cross-roads in your life or just want to ponder on how to use this powerful tool ever-available to you.
Questions to elicit optimum choices:
The below questions can also shine light on possible underlying intentions, the potential impact of your choice, the circumference of those available, and what ones may be most serving.
- Is this a loving choice?
- Does this choice take me closer to my dreams, goals, and heart’s desires?
- Does this choice reflect the best of who I am, who I desire to be, and the future I wish to create?
- Is this choice in alignment with my principles and heart?
- Is this a fear choice?
- Is this a ‘safe choice’ keeping me from going beyond my comfort zone?
- Is this someone else’s choice?
- Which ‘me’ is choosing this? Is it my child, adolescent, ego or mature adult self?
- Is this choice coming from negative beliefs or stories?
- Is this a winner’s choice?
- Does my intuition respond positively to this choice?
- Is this a true choice of personal desire, or one of sacrifice or obligation?
- Is this an informed choice?
- What is the possible short and long-term impact of this choice? Does one cancel out the merit of the other? (For example, is your choice worth the short-term pleasure if it leads to future pain?)
- Is this choice aligned to my brightest future?
- What is the impact of this choice on myself and others?
Don’t worry if you aren’t clear on answers to all these questions, they are shared to aid reflection. Simply going through them may help you become clearer about choices, bring to light possible blind-spots, open you to new perspectives in relation to your choice, and shed light on possible limiting agendas that may be impacting your choices.
Perhaps you have no choice in mind at present, in which case, ponder on this question once again:
What choice could you make today that would change your life for the better this week/month/year ahead? There may be several
Any thoughts do share!
By Aine Belton
Relationships of any kind help you face parts of your ‘shadow’ – buried parts that may otherwise remain hidden and unconscious, light or dark. You may project these parts on to other people, or attract people that act out these subconscious selves; aspects that are coming up for acknowledgement or healing at any given time in your life.
- Anything bugging you about another?
- Any behaviour pressing on a button in your life?
- Any pet peeves (types of traits or people you love to hate)?
I came across the concept of the shadow in my late teens, and it was then I first realised I may have some repressed anger. I had gotten the message strongly from my mother that anger was not OK to feel or express, as much in the way she behaved herself (never overtly expressing it) as anything she actually said about it.
My anger had been so stuffed down and disowned but was showing up in my first love relationship with someone who had a lot of pain, and covering that, anger, both of which he attempted to numb with drugs. I too had that anger, though was largely dissociated from it.
Some of my most healing experiences have been ones where I travelled down to meet the darkest places within and experience what was there – the anger, pain, worthlessness, despair, fear, hopelessness, etc.
These experiences were extremely healing for me, for in travelling down to parts that felt so pained and bereft, I opened to receive love where I most needed it. Facing the dark within and my core wounds led to greater light.
From wounds can come wings, from depths can come heights, all can be opportunity for your life to take flight!”
I found in diving into my pain or whatever dark emotions were there, and the layers that existed above or below them, I eventually ‘bottomed out’ into a higher space, lighter emotions, expansion and more love; a turning of the tide in which I experienced more of the truth of who you I am, more of my love, essence, and value, and the love that was there for me.
It is a time of individual and collective purification. We are being drawn now more than ever to take responsibility and bring to light our unconscious patterns, cycles, and past wounds for healing and addressing any continuing impact they have on our lives as we more fully wake up to being source, not subject, of our reality.
On this journey of healing and awakening layers may surface. These may not be pretty. They may include old wounds, repressed shadow aspects, limiting beliefs, stories, and negative agendas. In the light of awareness alone these can dissipate.
You are not your darkness, though in meeting it with love, compassion, and forgiveness, it can heal and transform. In the process you become more intimate with yourself, more whole, free and self-loving, and through that more loving and compassionate of others too.
I have given myself permission to dive into my emotions throughout much of my life. Through that I have experienced some very dark states.
Paradoxically I have also experienced such ineffable states of bliss I have been virtually unable to move – what I describe as ‘divine union’. In these peak ecstatic experiences every fibre of my being is flooded with an immeasurable love-beyond-words. What feels like 10 minutes in this rapturous bliss can turn out to be hours as time no longer exists in these states. I’ll share more on these experiences another time.
If you were to experience directly the pure loving sweetness of life’s every breath, you would faint from ecstasy overload.”
I believe that in processing depths of darkness and base levels in my unconscious I created a reservoir for more light to enter – a deeper ‘container,’ if you like.
Embracing and loving your shadow sides enables you to love yourself more fully and authentically. It also enables you to be more real with others, as well as more compassionate and loving as you are less likely to project your shadows onto others and judge or condemn them for that.
When you judge you project your shadows onto others, when you love you project your light.”
The problem comes when you identify with your shadow as being who you are, which leads to more repression because you then push away what you want to avoid about yourself, secretly believing it is you, which it is not.
You are having a human experience and here to live that fully as you are – the beautifully flawed, imperfect, miraculous you!
It’s not about being perfect, it’s about being YOU.”
I find it fascinating watching what parts of my shadow are coming up at any given time to own, forgive, accept, etc. It’s intriguing how it happens in phases too, sometimes with a theme emerging and a repeated trait coming to the surface in different people I meet, light or dark.
Is there a distinct behaviour that is repeatedly showing its face in your life at this time to own, forgive, heal or integrate?
Very often with the shadow what is coming to light through the behaviour of another may not be something you personally identify with. You may have difficulty associating with it, and it may show up in a more exaggerated form. It may be hard to identify since it is buried, but if you dig deeper you may locate it within. I have found some shadow work to reach as far back as unconscious patterns from previous life-times even.
Look for the quality that is pressing on a button or having a negative impact in your life. The person whom you perceive has the trait you dislike in your world may be magnifying the quality that you are denying in yourself, and bringing it to light to acknowledge, forgive and let go.
As you seek to own a shadow quality, memories or situations may come to mind of times when you have, either to yourself or another, acted or thought in a way that corresponds with the trait you are judging.
I don’t believe the ‘people are mirrors’ concept is simple or black-and-white. It can be complex. Your experiencing something or someone ‘negative’ may be reflecting beliefs you have about yourself, others or the world, a story or pattern that is running in your consciousness, a soul-level challenge or a shadow being reflected.
When it comes to ‘bad things happening’ reasons can be multi-layered and intricate. In my article “Why Bad Things Happen” I explore some of these.
You also have a “Light Shadow” – positive aspects of self you may disown, deny and project out onto others.
Who and what do you admire? Are you idealising someone or putting them on a pedal-stool? What of your gifts, strengths, talents, love, power and qualities are you projecting ‘out there’ onto another?
If you’re admiring someone else’s glow, it exists within you, own your Light Shadow!”
Feel free to share any comments, thoughts or personal experiences below.
When you shine you may light up people’s shadows. Shine anyway.”
Love and blessings,
Hello from Bali and Happy Valentine’s day!Wishing you a blessed, love and joy filled day however you spend it. Whatever your attitude towards Valentine’s Day, something I share on twitter comes to mind for me personally regarding it:
I’m in Ubud right now, a lovely spiritual and creative town in Bali and hive of activity. A few days ago I travelled a scenic route to a Volcano, passing valleys of marigold flowers and rice paddies and over the highest bridge in Indonesia. I saw many beautiful small sacred Balinese villages. I have been very moved and inspired by the Balinese people I have met – so warm, friendly and generous-hearted. I noticed in these villages there seemed to be a high level of happiness, harmony and contentment.
Never miss an opportunity to say “I love you”, better still create them.”
In witnessing this 3 simple questions came to mind to always ask as a priority:
1) Are you happy? 2) Are you loving? 3) Are you loved/allowing love in (from self, others, nature, the universe)?~~~ This evening I travel down to visit the “One Billion Rising” Bali celebrations in Sanur.
These celebrations are going on all over the world in an invitation for 1 billion women and those who love them to dance, rise up and make a stand for an end to violence and rape against women.
You can find out more about One Billion Rising at: www.onebillionrising.org~~~ “I Love Me, I Love Me Not” So much in my life changed and continues to as I love myself more, both in terms of what I allow into my life, and what I no longer allow that doesn’t serve me, and the nature and quality of my relationships in general.
Self-Love increases your capacity for giving and receiving love and positively impacts all areas of your life. It is a life healing panacea and magical magnet that attracts the best of everything, opening you to more of all your heart desires and the love that is ever there for you – both from you and for you.It’s by no means a flip-of-a-switch process, or at least hasn’t been for me. It is an ongoing healing journey and there are levels and layers that surface on that journey, and of the light, dark and love it unveils.
To love yourself is to know yourself in the truest sense.
I share more on self-love in my article at the link below given it is self-love that impacts all other relationships and your experience and relationship with self, others, life and love itself.Love and blessings, Aine Belton
The Nigerian Love-In is being organized by teachers and college students at the DANBO International School who will be visiting an orphanage to share gifts, setting up a programme called “Neighbourhood Day”, and having a dinner inviting everyone local to the school to come and share in the dinner so they can express their love and appreciation. Beautiful ideas!
Feel free to add your Love-In if you are having one this month or any other time at the “Add Event” page of the Global Love-Ins website: www.globalloveins.com/add-eventWe will soon begin our main campaign for Global Love Day, May 1st 2013, where people will be holding Love-In events of all kinds to celebrate humanitarian love around the world, including for raising awareness and/or funds for charities that wish to.
There are people now in over 1,000 locations worldwide wanting to host a Love-In (see the Global Love-Ins map), and there have already been a range of inspiring Love-In events in diverse locations since launching, including London, Niagara Falls, Saudi Arabia, Los Angeles, Florida, Atlanta, Jamaica, New York, Nigeria, Trinidad, Ohio, Kenya, and other locations.
These have included “Free Hugs” Love-Ins (another of which is on this Sunday February 10th in L.A. – Facebook event page at this link), Dance Love-Ins, Yoga Love-Ins, Meditation Love-Ins, Art Love-Ins, Film Night Love-Ins, as well as general gatherings in the name of love (ideas and suggestions for which are shared in our free Love-In Guide).
A simple and beautiful way to put some love in action this February is shared below also. This is something anyone can get involved in, will open YOU to love, touch others hearts and add some light to the world.It involves writing an anonymous unconditional love letter!
Read below for more details…
** February “Anonymous Love Letters” **
To celebrate 1 year since the Global Love Letter movement launched, people around the world are writing anonymous Love Letters to share between February 10-14, whether alone or in groups.
Anonymous love letters are a powerful and beautiful way to open to and share your love.
Here’s what you do:
1. Write a love letter from your heart, as if to yourself or a loved one – a letter of loving appreciation anyone could potentially receive but has meaning and feeling, sharing your love. Begin your letter “To you”, and end it “I Love You”.
2. Share this letter anonymously. Leave it in a public place for a stranger to find, on someone’s car, in a tree, etc., or post it to someone anonymously. You can do this activity on your own or in a group with friends, family, children or work colleagues.
Feel free to let us know about your Love Letter experience, whether you’ll be partaking, etc.
Examples of writing Anonymous Love Letters were shared in 4 short and warming videos from the Global Love Letter movement founders here:
It is also such a gift for another to receive, as well as opening YOU to more of your love in the process.
The Global Love Letter team wrote anonymous love letters at the Global Love Festival and spread them about for people to find. There were literally tears as people opened these anonymous letters and it added such a beautiful energy to the event.
Join us between 10-14th of February and be part of the 1 year celebrations since the Global Love Letter campaign launched.
If you want more info on writing anonymous love letters, check out the four inspiring short videos at the link below – so elevating!
Anonymous Love Letters Summary:
* Set a time/date between 10-14th February for your Love Letter Love-In (or any time). * You can can also let us know also by adding your Love Letter Love-In at the Global Love-Ins website * You may want to get some friends together for your Love Letter experience, or do the activity solo. * Write a Love Letter from your heart beginning “To you” and ending “I Love You” – examples of which are in the videos shared at this link. * Share your Love Letter anonymously by leaving it somewhere for another to find (in restaurants, retail stores, offices, car windshields, mailboxes…)
Enjoy this unique and inspiring activity for opening to and sharing your love, touching hearts and brightening the world.
By Aine Belton
By resistance here I’m not referring to resisting the ‘negative’ in your life, but resisting the positive and what may actually serve you – resisting love, success, peace, happiness, healing, abundance, for example.
Why would you or anyone ever do that?
The reasons aren’t always obvious and they can be multi-layered and complex.
Let’s take success as an example.
There can be an even greater fear of success than failure, particularly if success is less familiar, though this is rarely acknowledged. These fears can include the fear of responsibility, of change, of other people’s jealousy, of visibility, of power, of losing success after gaining it (beliefs like ‘anything that goes up has to come down’), etc.
Out of love and loyalty to a parent you may resist succeeding so as not to outshine them if they did not succeed themselves, continuing family patterns of failure out of a subconscious loyalty. Conversely you may avoid success out of a subconscious desire to punish a parent (“If you had loved me more/been there for me, then I’d be a success/then I’d be happy”, etc.). This dynamic may not be conscious, but can exist under failure patterns nonetheless.
Let’s take love as another example.
Many resistances to love stem from myths and faulty beliefs about love, and feared pain and associated consequences around love; the fear of hurt, rejection, betrayal, abandonment, commitment, being seen, neediness/dependency, humiliation, jealousy, loss, etc.
You may feel you don’t deserve love, or fear the intimacy, vulnerability or visibility that comes with love. You may believe “love hurts” rather than “love heals” and so avoid it, and so on.
Resistances can come from scared parts of you, hidden and wounded aspects of self, parts of you that are attempting to stay safe and avoid pain.
Then there’s the ego that will resist anything that threatens its attempts to be ring leader of your life. Love, joy, happiness and success are not conducive to the negative ego, which thrives on fear, separation and sufferance, on control, blame, judgement (of self or others), victimhood, ‘better than’ or ‘less than’, etc.
The ego cannot co-exist in the resonance of love. When in a state of love ego traps simply fall away, so the ego clearly has resistances to your mergence with it.
How do you know if you’re resisting something?
The fact that something is not in your life can reflect that resistance. Of course, another reason something may not be in your life is because you don’t have conducive beliefs, desire, imagination, self-worth or positive expectation to support its manifestation, or it may not currently serve you from a higher perspective at that time.
Tell tale signs of resistance can include procrastination, making excuses, never getting round to take action despite conscious intentions, ambivalence, things ‘going wrong’ in that area (reflecting subconscious sabotage), distractions, drama and detours that take you away from what it is you’re resisting.
There are also rhythms and patterns in life, however, somewhat like seasons. There can be times of solitude, of shedding skins, of healing, of dreaming and planning, or of moving forth and being active and involved, or reflecting in pause, and so on.
There are times when it may be best to seed, sow, grow or reap depending, and every soul’s path has cadences on its journey.
Rather like the moon that waxes and wanes, and the planets and stars that constellate through the galaxy, there is a bigger picture, a turning of a grander wheel and soul-level perspectives that impact occurrences in your life regarding when things may be most optimum.
Sometimes you may be honouring this divine timing, rather than in resistance. Your intuition may be responding to this sense of your life’s current rhythms, ebbs and flows, whether you are consciously aware of that or not.
I purchased the Global Love Project domain name over 6 years before I went live with it, for example. Was that resistance? I don’t think so. I launched it when it felt like the right time to do so.
I had big resistance to the Global Love Festival I launched last year as it was entirely new. I went ahead regardless because I deeply trusted my guidance, which began in night-time dreams about organising a festival, despite not knowing if or how I could manifest that.
Faith, choice, commitment, acting in spite of fear, trust and the WHY you are doing something – its positive intentions, the bigger picture and your heart’s desires, can all help you move through resistance. Being willing, affirming the choice and following it through with action, giving yourself and life permission for it to occur, asking for grace and assistance, and opening the door to it in your heart, in spite of any fears or resistances (known or otherwise) will allow things to be called in for your benefit.
Simply being conscious of your resistances helps to dissipate them, like a light shining on the dark, and gives you greater power and awareness to affirm choice and move through resistance towards your heart’s desires.
Love and blessings,
By Aine Belton
With the below I am not intending to claim absolutes in any way, more share awarenesses that have rung true for me personally, been ever healing and always helped to awaken and return me to happiness and love.
These need not be your ‘truths’, of course – accept only what resonates. (If you follow me on twitter you may recognize some of the below as tweets I share www.twitter.com/AineBelton).
1. The only thing wrong with you is ever thinking there’s anything wrong with you. 2. You are loved, loving and loveable, ever and always. 3. You deserve all your heart desires.4. You co-create your reality. If you don’t like the story you’re living, get writing a new script. 5. You are loved totally and unconditionally by the heart of creation. There is nothing you need do to win that love, and nothing you can do to lose it. 6. Success does not take time, it takes a change of mind. 7. If you don’t think you’re amazing, you’ve simply temporarily forgotten who you are. 8. Only love is real. 9. Whoa and behold, celebratory blissings, chocolate is real too. 10. Choice is yours for the taking, life is yours for the making. 11. All endings are beginnings. 12. In letting go you can only ever win, if something’s for your best it will come back, if not something better will. 13. You are eternal and get to hang with loved ones forever. 14. The truth of who you are is wholly innocent. 15. Happiness is a choice. Give yourself permission and feel it.16. Opportunity never stops knocking. 17. The universe loves you and wants you to be happy. 18. From wounds can come wings, from depths can come heights, all can be opportunity for your life to take flight. 19. The more you realise you deserve it all, the more you will receive it all. 20. “How could anyone ever tell you you are anything less than beautiful?” Dear gem of a heart, you are more beautiful, radiant and magnificent than anything you may be able to imagine or comprehend. <3
Love and blessings,